I hesitated to share this post on Facebook, and now here on my blog, but for 10 years I have noticed a pattern. When I am feeling something, chances are someone else is too and it’s usually worthy of being of being vulnerable and putting into writing. Now, as a leader with a public face for a growing company, I know I can either keep these things to myself, pretend they aren’t there, or continue to do that I have always tried to do…. share. I still cross my fingers what I write will connect me to someone else who feels the same and will help someone else feel less isolated, a little more heard, and a lot more “normal.”
I can feel myself becoming comparison-minded this time of year, despite not being a high-jealous wired human.
We are supposedly thriving in a time of digital access and excess, but instead there is a constant onslaught of others’ main page highlights being slammed at you.
Spring break trips you aren’t on, home remodels you aren’t doing, colleges you didn’t get accepted to, “perfect” appearing families that don’t look like your own, work success you aren’t yet achieving….
My tips for managing the jealous envy monster:
Unfollow every account that makes you hate on yourself. That *might*even be a good friend.
Dial down your scrolling. Rightfu*kingnow.
Physically connect with someone who makes you feel thrilled to be alive. Have undivided time in their space and revel in it. Name 10 things you are so very grateful for. If you can’t name 10, stop being a baby and try harder.
How long has it been since you picked up an old hobby you once loved? How long has it been since you tried something new and uncomfortable that could bring you joy or even thrill?
Go outside. Nature reminds.
You have the skills and power to celebrate your light and the light of others at the exact same time. It just takes practice and patience.